I was wondering about the success of on-line dating and I discovered that many people fail to make a good impression or may not possess the skills needed to attract a good mate. Therefore, I started researching articles on ways to effectively approach the idea of on-line dating. I ran across an article in Essence magazine that describes ways to make a lasting impression. The title of the article was Love at First Site. The article presented four ways to make your personal data datable. This will prevent you from being lost in the pool of on-line dating sites and becoming frustrated.
1. Post a winning Photo-instead of a professional shot; try a more laid-back look. You will want to look like the person that will be coming through the door at the date. Take your picture in a comfortable setting, such as a family reunion, in your yard, or at a backyard barbecue.
2. Write an impressive profile-A profile should be like a great movie trailer-just enough given to make you want to buy tickets to the show. Once you have captured his or her interest deliver a description that sets you apart from the competition. Be specific. Many people have talents but name your best.
3. Save the drama-Check your baggage before logging on. When you describe your dream guy or girl, do not request qualities, such as monogamy and honesty. It shows that you have unresolved pain from your past, which is a turn-off. Not only will that drive away good mates, the bad guys or girls will see you as an easy mark.
4. Take Charge-Men and women are flattered when you make the first move. If a man or woman catches your attention, shoot them a polite email. Leave an impression by mentioning some traits you have in common.
I hope that these tips are helpful in attracting mates that are interested in romance while trying to date on-line. I did not want to leave before giving you an update on Lamaris. Things are going okay but I have begun to lose interest in the long distance thing. He is very romantic and attentive but only through telephonic contacts. I was suppose to go and visit this weekend but the trip was just too expensive. In the meantime, I try to keep myself busy instead of indulging in unproductive activities. I am trying to give this romance and faithfulness phenomenon a try. To promote my self-esteem, I have decided to make a dramatic change such as a new haircut or a complete make over. I feel if I am in the market, I may as well attract all the fishes. Flirting is good for the soul. Well until next time…….have a good week.
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These are all good points. You are so right about lasting impressions. The first impression should be a lasting one, that knocks a person off their feet.In doing that,I always hope that people are honest about what they say and send.I always think people are sending pictures of Denzel Washington and you find out they look like EDDIE THE MONSTER !!! now that is a BIG SCARE!! so, in sayin that, I hope that the lasting impression is a good one and it is genuine.
I have a good friend who has recently began attempting to meet someone online. I am constantly warning her that she can not believe everything that she reads or sees. I hate that it has to be that way but I am scared to death she is going to agree to meet with someone and they will harm her in some way. I can't imagine how hard it is to be single and looking so I am attempting to be really open to her on line dating. She is lonely and really wants to meet someone.
Getting a makeover is not bad at all. I actually did it, I cut my at age 39 and went shorter when I turned 40. Believe me when I say I am turing heads, i have even lost 12lbs. Go ahead and try it you will not regret it. As for me with on line dating I am still a chicking but I do enjoy making my first impressions the real thing and I certainly enjoy flirting it is good for my "SOUL".
Hi Angelique,
I enjoyed reading your blog. I’ve not tried on-line dating yet but I’m going to save this information for future reference. I did want to mention that on-line dating is a way many seniors are now meeting prospective mates. I came across a blog on the AARP website where seniors were relaying their experiences. This age group has the same concerns as young adults. They are just as interested in meeting someone to become involved with. They have the time and resources in their retirement years and want to have a mate to share this time of their lives.
I feel your suggestions regarding making a good impression are especially useful for my age group (over 50). No longer having youth on our side, we must play up our other qualities. A positive, happy, involved and well adjusted person is more attractive. It is important to make a good first impression on-line to establish initial contact. We need to get to know someone well before exposing them to our imperfections. Some of the comments on the AARP site were about not getting any responses after posting their information. Perhaps they were giving out too much about themselves initially. It takes time to get to know someone online as well as in person.
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